1. From the enlightened view one lets thoughts pass through 3 doors before one speaks.
1.1. Why One?
1.2. Why here?
1.3. Why Now?
1.4. This is synchronicity.
1.5. The answers to these questions will tell one everything one needs to know about why one is where one is and why the other one or ones are present.
1.6. Answering these questions will tell one whether or not to speak.
What relevant experience has one had that synchronicity has placed one in this situation to face the choice of whether or not to speak one’s mind. One’s life experience will tell one why one should speak up regardless of how much it might upset other ones.
There are times in life where the greatest healing action one can perform is to speak pain filled truth. The only reason the truth is pain filled is due to the deception one has encountered. To say nothing encourages and supports long suffering.
If there was such a thing as evil, to hold one’s tongue in the face of suffering and deceit is the greatest evil one can do. One has a responsibility to the shared reality to attempt to put and end to the long suffering one sees before one.
All one’s are connected and one will reap what one has sown and if one allows for long suffering to continue without ever saying anything or doing anything to attempt to end it one can expect to suffer greatly.
One should ask “Why be silent?” If the answer is due to possible perceived consequences to oneself, one is acting selfishly. This is driven by fear and shows a lack of compassion for anyone but one.
2. If one is to accept guidance/counsel one must take it personally.
2.1. Receiving guidance and counsel is an opportunity to further refine ones expression and experience growth.
2.2. Growth is a personal and emotional endeavor.
If one never takes guidance personally then why did one seek guidance to begin with?
3. If one is to give guidance/counsel one must make it personal to act with greater care.
3.1. Give guidance with patient consideration and empathy.
3.2. Putting one in the others shoes can help one find better guidance to give or discover what questions may be of greater assistance to the other one/s.
If one does not personalize guidance one is speaking in platitudes and will often go unheard.
When one gives guidance one is attempting to get the other one to think and is only assisting the other one in discovering the solution to one’s issue. This is a personal endeavor one has taken on. This is a personal endeavor the other has taken on. To not be personal in the dialog is to be inhuman to each other.
4. One builds personal connections by accepting compliment and critique alike.
4.1. Critique is the opportunity to grow.
4.2. Compliment is the result of growth.
All ones are connected and one strengthens that connection through interaction.
When one is critiqued one is seen as other’s see one.
One is afforded the opportunity to turn the mirror inward and to assess the value of the criticism. Only in being open to criticism can one grow.
When one takes the time to assess the critique one exercise patience in thought to discover the value of the critique.
When one receives a compliment, one has shown growth and has made an impact in the life of the one complimenting one. A compliment is a reminder as to why one works on one’s expression of self. One is a work of living art that is finished when one is dead.
The work of living art one is takes work in living daily.
Connections gain their strength from the personal desire that causes one to work on strengthening that connection. Human connections are built on being personal and taking it personally.
5. One owns every word that escapes ones lips.
5.1. What one intended and what happens can be two different things.
5.2. When one causes unintended harm one offers an apology to show care for the connection between one and another one or ones.
5.3. One lives up to the things that comes out of one’s mouth less one be seen as a hypocrite and thus untrustworthy.
One who thinks no one shouldn’t take anything personally will inflict much suffering using “Don’t take it personally” as a defense for one’s actions. One is taking an inhuman stance to attempt to absolve one from guilt for issuing continuous harm. One lies to one’s self so one can inflict harm with an attempt at avoiding consequence.
One has a good idea before one speaks whether or not one is getting personal.
One will reap what one sows whether one likes it or not.
If one unintentionally causes harm with one has to say one has a responsibility oneself and all ones to own up to it and make amends.
One who never sees the harm they do seeks to absolve themselves from guilt and will seek for the audience to weigh in.
This is an act of fear because one knows one is wrong and has no other recourse to attempt so absolve one from guilt and owning ones words.
An enlightened one exercises patience and knows ones words to be wise and needs no validation from the audience.
6. One has the responsibility to oneself to correct mistakes made in observation by other ones.
6.1. Allowing other ones to have a distorted view of one causes friction.
6.2. To strengthen connections one must be able to be seen clearly and understood.
6.3. Speak of oneself only to give clarity as to why one is the way one is and to relate experience to show empathy.
The stories other ones tell of one have greater impact than the stories one tells about oneself. To ensure one’s story is told accurately is to protect one’s life and keep harm from being done to one and other ones as a result. Any deception will cause suffering until the deception is revealed and the truth is known.
If there one is not attempting to build connection through relation then why is one talking about oneself?
7. One has become enlightened when one can feel the synchronicity and see how one can be of best service to the other one or ones that have come into one’s life.
7.1. As independent as one can be in thought, all ones are interdependent to accomplish anything in life.
7.2. Other ones are always in one’s life for a reason.
All ones are connected and it is a shared reality in which all ones are responsible for the reality shared by all ones. This is inescapable and absolute truth. All ones are dependent on all ones to live one’s life whether one interacts with all ones or not.
If one cannot understand this truth one is not enlightened and is motivated by fear.
8. The enlightened one does not seek to build connection but to reveal the connection already there and in doing so show how much stronger it can be.
8.1. In the revealing one sees why one and other ones are present in each other’s lives.
8.2. One must be unguarded in the revealing or one and other ones build no trust between them.
An honest conversation starts with a desire to know and be known. One can only know another one by what one listens to as the other tells one about the other one’s life and how the other one came to share this location with one. In this story one will discover synchronicity.
9. If one is to truly live the enlightened life one must seek truth in all things no matter how ugly a truth might be.
9.1. Deception of any kind is unacceptable in the life of an enlightened one.
To become enlightened one must forsake deception in all its forms. One who deceives cannot be enlightened.
All deception causes long suffering and greater pain.